On Kink & BDSM

This collection is always growing…

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Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns:  The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism (1995). Cheryl Trooskin, of SubmissiveGuide.com, writes:

If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon. It comes as recommended reading for anyone curious about BDSM and want a primer for what SM is all about. This was the first book I purchased when I as first learning and is still the go to guide for helping me explain to novices certain aspects of safety, and loving play that I may not have the right words for.

This book is written in the male Dominant/female submissive interactions, but it’s easily translatable into valuable advice for any relationship configuration. “Screw the Roses enthusiastically covers all the basics and even some of the not-so-basics–bondage, negotiation, sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys, safety, S/M community, and beyond.”

Welcome To The Ultimate Guide To Bondage/BDSM from Elizabeth Morris, Head of Content at Carvaka Sex Toys:

The launch of Fifty Shades Darker has yet again fixed the attention of the public on all things BDSM. However, many people with no knowledge of or experience in BDSM can find the whole area a little bit overwhelming. To the uninitiated, this strange new world can be a little bit confusing. Thankfully the guys at Carvaka Sex Toys have produced a very useful video guide which tells you all you need to know. So if you are fascinated by all things BDSM and want to learn a little more, our video below is certainly for you!

You can find their online Guide Book here: The Ultimate Guide to Bondage/BDSM

Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink (2015). Amazon’s summary goes like this:

Tired of standing on the sexual sidelines? Wonder what it’s like to be a real kink adventurer? Let world famous Midori lead you into the thick of it. This new collection of smoldering wisdom and and frank essays explores the Wild Side of Sex, including these burning subjects: * Is Your Prospect a Proper Pervert’ * Fetishism: Sex, Romance, and Ritual * The Heart of Erotic Humiliation * Finding the Power Femme. This delightfully twisted new volume entertains and titillates as well as educates, an erotic personal adventure exposing Midori’s most helpful and empowering secrets.


SM 101:
 A Realistic Introduction (1997). Summaries by GoodReads.com and Barnes & Noble, respectively:

“Call it what you like – bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism. More and more people are experimenting with this exciting , consensual form of erotic play. SM 101 is your basic guidebook to safe rewarding SM. This book includes: finding partners, negotiating the scene you want, bondage techniques, spanking and whipping, erotic torture, role playing, related practices, physical and emotional safety. Must read book.”GoodReads.com

“It goes by many names: bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, sadomasochism, and more. Now, the long-taboo subject of consensual SM is coming “out of the closet” – much to the delight of the millions of adults who enjoy engaging in bondage, spanking, erotic role-playing, and similar practices.

Since the early ’90s, this underground classic has taught the fundamentals of safe, exciting SM to tens of thousands of people of all genders and orientations. Now, for the first time, this comprehensive and widely recommended resource is available in a quality collector’s edition. This expanded Second Edition includes many revisions and updates, including a brand-new chapter on starting and running SM organizations and events.”Barnes&Noble.com

BDSM Positions: The Beginner’s Guide to BDSM (2016). Amazon’s summary:

“Ready for a hotter, kinkier sex life with your partner?

Contrary to popular belief not all the activities that fall under the classification of BDSM involve both parties wearing lots of leather while one person flogs the other. In fact, BDSM is actually more concerned with pleasure than pain and ensuring both partners are comfortable at all times is key part of the experience.

If you have ever been the least bit aroused by the thought of being restrained or restraining a sexual partner or light biting or spanking, then BDSM Positions: The Beginner’s Guide to 30 BDSM Techniques might be just the thing you need to explore the idea of BSDM exploration more clearly.

BDSM Positions: The Beginner’s Guide to 30 BDSM Techniques starts out by explaining the basic ideas behind BDSM experiences and the physiology behind the idea that pleasure can be derived from pain before discussing the mindset behind BDSM activities and the tools you will need to explore fully. Finally, there is a discussion of a wide variety of bondage positions appropriate for everyone from novices to BDSM masters and the ways to experience them as safely as possible.

Recent studies have shown that as much as 70 percent of the general population derives some pleasure from some form of BDSM practices be they restricted movement, dominance, submission or some form of painful stimulation.

Don’t you owe it to you and your partner to explore a diverse range of sexual possibilities? You never know what you may in fact be missing!”

Dom’s Guide to… (all volumes below) (2013, 2015, 2016). Matthew Larocco and Elizabeth Cramer:

Much of what we’ve “heard” about BDSM and the lifestyle is wrong. Our opinions on this lifestyle and art form are oftentimes shaped by other people who have heard something about it and perhaps embellished it to the point of perpetuating myths. The truth is that BDSM is not degrading towards women, and it’s also a concept that you will find is not “scary.” And even the “pain” that is spoken of is not the type of pain people think it is.

This book is written for Doms/Masters in training. It is written for you, the average guy or gal, who doesn’t already have a closet full of leather and whips, and who really has little idea about what BDSM is besides what they’ve heard about it.

What you are going to find out, is that the Dom/Master actually has the more complicated role. The master has the task of giving pleasure and discipline to the slave or sub. A great deal of what you do as a Dom will be for the benefit of a sub. You must derive pleasure from giving, have a great desire to please a partner, and not simply take what you want.

A Dom/sub relationship doesn’t just happen. It is a finely crafted and designed system of expectations and joys. In order for you and your submissive lady to “fit” one another and create a lasting, happy union there must be a period of training.

It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge.

“Dom’s Guide to Submissive Training” was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips.

Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship – trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.

In this advanced guide for Doms, we’re going to focus on becoming a “billionaire” type of Alpha Dom so that you can become more attractive to the subs you offer your services to. You are soon going to find out that money actually has nothing to do with the attraction the Dom builds with the sub. It’s all in personality, in posturing and in a certain way of thinking.

We’re going to train you, Dom to Dom, how to activate that attraction and more importantly how to come across as a worldly-wise educator to a sub that needs someone strong, smart and creative in her life.

By the time you finished this book you will be well on your way to become: Alpha, Dominant, Valuable, Educated, and Confident.

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