Murphy’s Law or Something

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One month after my Mom’s passing on November 3rd, 2025, my wife Sandy accidentally fell the morning of (and half asleep going to the bathroom) December 3rd, 2025, and fractured her hip. I was in the kitchen and Mom’s room, separate from our bedroom, and managed to hear her scream for me twice. When I open the door she’s on the floor in obvious pain and cannot get up.

A few hours later after she tried to stick it out and be tough, it was becoming too painful to even get up off the couch to go to the bathroom—she drinks a lot of water daily. I call the EMT’s and ambulance for a “lift assist” to try one more time because Sandy does indeed have a very high pain-threshold. When she was 14 years old her 5th lumbar fell off the spinal column. Back surgery for hours then a body cast for 4-6 months I believe. Then years later her left hip required extensive repair, almost a total replacement. Again, immobile for several weeks. Let me tell you, this woman has the MOST determination, pain tolerance, and sense of humor needed that I’ve ever seen in a woman. It often amazes me how she does it.

Needless to say, Sandy was taken to the ER, x-rays done, then the following day the orthopedic surgeon said she needed repair surgery on her right hip. They scheduled it for the following day. Two and a half hours later, surgery done, she was moved from the O.R. to her surgery recovery floor and room for further treatment and rehab: physical therapy (PT) and occupational therapy (OT). Remarkably she began her PT/OT that same day! And she did very well; the staff was impressed.

Now today she is scheduled to be discharged to the rehab facility next week for further rehab… for a number of weeks—it depends on her progress there. To be determined.

Anyway, I’m letting everyone know here on WordPress that I am going to be out-of-pocket some more dealing with all the hospital stuff such as insurance, Sandy’s recovery, visitations to her, etc., etc., while also still dealing with Mom’s after-events from her death, like Social Security benefits, her estate, her probate, her testamentary, a possible probate attorney for all this due to my psychotic sister and her obsessive demand for money, basically doing my required duties as Mom’s Executor and Trustee. Then of course there is all the other daily, weekly tasks of life that must be done; paying bills, taking care of Dwain(?), and anything else I’m forgetting… which I will forget. 🙄 Therefore, this is also an update of my goings on if anyone is interested.

By the way, Sandy loves cats (header image), but especially black cats with gold eyes, like her “Bob” back in Chattanooga, Tennessee. That’s the purpose of those furry felines. 😉

Until later sometime, again…

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19 thoughts on “Murphy’s Law or Something”

    • Thank you Nan. ❤️ It will pass. I often remind Sandy, “We’ll get there Honey. You are doing great!“

      I will say this too, for you and all others here…

      I just returned home from spending the night with her (8:15am CST) because her Early Onset Dementia really flares up when she is not getting her usual, needed 10-hrs minimum of uninterrupted sleep. As you can imagine, with all the nursing staff, patient care techs, doctors, PT/OT staff, business office sometimes, etc., she doesn’t always get uninterrupted sleep or naps. Then at the end of the day or the following day, especially week days, she’s mentally exhausted and begins to ‘fall behind in her cognition.’ This leads to confusion and more forgetfulness.

      Well, last night about 11pm she texted me “Are you there?” Yes, what’s up Honey? “Have I been kidnapped?” she asks, dead serious. When I called her she was still crying. When she woke from a deep, hard 2-3 hour nap (the weekend allows at least that) she was very confused because she didn’t recognize anyone, didn’t know where she was, and eventually told me she was MAD at me for leaving her there. 😥 I asked her if she would like for me to come to the hospital (again) and spend the night with her. She immediately said yes, still crying. I immediately gathered my things, pillow and got up there in 12-15 minutes.

      I tell you, when you fall and break your hip, go thru surgery, then rehab daily, then pain meds like morphine, tramadol, acetaminophen, Motrin, etc., then on top of that with Early Onset Dementia which worsens with little uninterrupted sleep… it gets really tough for her mentally and emotionally. Then if you have weekend hospital staff who have let’s say, less than above-n-beyond motivation to sympathize, empathize, care and nurture/support more, it makes it even harder on her. 😟

      It will be tough on her, especially when she is discharged to go to the nursing rehab facility—the one Mom was at several time—and gradually intensify her PT/OT. But as I said and I remind her… we’ll get there, we’ll get through it. 🙂

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  2. Holy crap, dude. My problem after my Ma passed away two years ago was lack of focus. You don’t have that luxury.

    When it rains, it pours. If there is balance in the universe, you will be gifted with bow coop days of sunshine and blue skies.

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  3. Man oh man. That stinks. When it rains it pours. Wishing you strength and perseverance, with confidence that you’ll make it through to the other side—hopefully sooner rather than later. Don’t forget to take care of yourself.

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    • Yes Carol, sometimes life and the Universe throw you several curve balls at once or back to back to back. Ugh. 🙄

      Thank you so much for your sentiments Ma’am. ❤️

      P.S. I shared a further update on Sandy up above to Nan. Fyi.

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    • Sandy misses Bob terribly, but he just can’t make that 16.5 hour drive from Chattanooga, TN, to Kerrville, TX, nor can he make the airline flight; that would SURELY freak him out bad. But he sure would help her right now.

      Thanks John for your comment Sir. ❤️

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  6. I lost my mother and my wife many years ago but often seems like yesterday. I shed a tear now and then for them and others who have gone but also remind myself life will go on and good positive things will also always happen, as they will over time for you Dwain.

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    • Yes, you are right sklyjd. It will improve and return to some semblance of normal, eventually. Sandy and I can’t wait for that day! 😄 Thank you for your kind sentiments sklyjd.

      FYI, I shared a further update on Sandy with Nan up above. 🙂

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  8. We have a saying here: bad things come in 3s. Our version of “when it rains, it pours”. But the darkest hour of night is right before dawn.

    Sending you good, healing vibrations.

    (I really need to make an account here when I’m not feeling lazy.)

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