The Nature of Love

As part of the Alternative Lifestyles blog-posts migration over to the new blog The Professor’s Lifestyles Memoirs, this post has been moved there. To read this post please click the link to the blog.

Your patience is appreciated. Thank you!

5 thoughts on “The Nature of Love

  1. Love is definitely complex, no? While I don’t completely subscribe to the idea that a relationship must be completely monogamous, I do believe that an important factor in ensuring a relationship last is honest communication and mutual respect.

    Many misinterpret non-monogamous relationships, assuming the lack of monogamy means cheating. You and I both know that doesn’t have to be the case. Cheating is all about disrespect and lies. Not very healthy because if the other party finds out, the person is bound to feel betrayed. However, honest communication about desires can allow a couple to explore their non-monogamous tendencies within boundaries both parties deem acceptable. It’s not cheating if they know and are okay with it.


    • Kitt,

      Your flexibility and understanding in “love-mating” is to be admired despite the dark, steamy, erotic places you enjoy guiding men/women to in your books & on your blog! 😉

      I would’ve liked to get a lot more into the neurological, hormonal, and structural aspects of the human emotion (i.e. the anterior hypothalamus) particularly as it relates to love and/or sexual orientation. The findings and research over the last 2 decades have been delightfully and scientifically smashing down and through old mythical medieval societal constructs regarding proper binary relationships! Yet, everywhere in nature, LITERALLY everywhere, there is no new or true evidence showing sexual behavior (but not procreation) must be black or white! But alas, had I gone into all that this post would’ve turned into a medical journal and in all likelihood three or four thousands words or more. Yikes! *scary face*

      Thank you so much for your thoughts & feedback, as well as your unending patience and support for my little corner of the blogosphere! You’re awesome!


  2. Great post, Professor. I don’t know how I missed this one. I was looking for a link to your Steampunk post to give to another blogger friend who’s into Steampunk, when I saw this. This is a subject I’ve studied extensively, myself. Btw, did you know studies show that the bigger the balls, generally the smaller the penis. 😀 Studies also show that men with smaller balls make better fathers. Quote:

    “Prior research has already suggested that dudes with higher testosterone levels are less into raising kids, but this study, which was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences on Monday, is the first to find an independent correlation between testicle volume and parenting. As with other seed-bearing nuts, testicle size determines how much juice is produced, and it seems there’s a kind of law of diminishing returns at work. The greater the semen output in each ejaculation, the smaller the parenting output later on. That matters — a lot.

    “We know in modern Western societies children with more involved fathers have better developmental outcomes,” says one of the study’s authors, James Rilling, associate professor of anthropology at Emory University in Atlanta. Rilling and his co-authors wanted to see if they could figure out why some fathers opt out of their kids’ lives — the number of absent fathers, the study notes, increased “precipitously” in the latter half of the 20th century. Was there some biology involved? Testosterone is one factor, but it can vary widely in a guy because of age or diet or general health. “Testicular volume is likely to be a more stable measure than testosterone,” says Rilling.

    “We don’t know the direction of the causality,” he admits. “It could be that as men become more involved in caregiving the testes shrink.” But he believes it’s more likely that guys with a little less in the sack are a little better with the crib.”

    Heheh. 😀

    More in my next post. Want to share some info about “The Coolidge Effect”.


  3. “When you drop a male rat into a cage with a receptive female rat, you see an initial frenzy of copulation. Then, progressively, the male tires of that particular female. Even without an apparent change in her receptivity he reaches a point where he has little libido-and simply ignores her.

    However, if you replace the original female with a fresh one, the male immediately revives and begins copulating again. You can repeat this process with fresh females until the rat nearly dies of exhaustion. The rat’s renewed vigor does not reflect an increase in his wellbeing – although it will look (and temporarily feel to him) that way. His vigor comes from surges of a neurochemical called dopamine, which flood the reward circuitry of his primitive brain… so that he gets the job done.

    In short, animals do not choose their mates randomly. They identify and reject those with whom they have already had sex. Scientists know this reflex as the “Coolidge Effect.

    The Coolidge Effect has been observed in all mammals that have been tested. Scientists have observed it in females too. Female rodents, for example, flirt a lot more – arching in inviting displays – with unfamiliar partners than with those with which they’ve already copulated.

    What’s behind the Coolidge Effect? And is there a way around it? We’ve talked about a post-passion hangover that pushes partners apart. Here’s a brief summary:”

    The Nature of Love, a.k.a., #$%@ing, is all about the reward. 😉

    Wouldn’t it be great if our kids left the nest sooner — way way sooner?

    Huge, huge price to pay for a 20 second orgasm and a surge of dopamine. Nature is so cunning.


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