Not Who You Thought?

There is a prevalent social riddle that I don’t quite understand. It baffles me frankly. When I get perplexed like this I like to write or journal, or get into some stimulating banter keeping the topic light while at the same time have meaningful reflection. So here goes…

How’s the Table d’Hôte?

Do you like choices in life? In foods at a grocer or on a restaurant menu, choices are very good, right? At a new or used car/truck dealership, do you like choices? How about a-or-bdifferently designed homes in neighborhoods shopping for your house? Airlines, cruise lines, or rental cars when traveling? Television cable networks? What about different genres of movies, TV shows, or music? Electric providers for home or business? Different sports or sports teams? How about various plants, trees, or flowers at a lawn and garden center? Or options in a free-enterprise (capitalism) economy where competition helps temper the consumer price index, your prices, your expenses and savings?

Or would you rather have no choices at all in those categories or only two… A or B? Let’s imagine for a minute what diversity, inclusion, interdisciplinary and multi-experiential learning offers each of us and as a whole.

Forms of Diversity

Most of us learned the basic sciences in secondary grades, 6th through 8th grades and expanded upon them through high school sciences. However, once the diploma was given and graduates are out the door to pursue their dreams, the majority of them understandably pursue the higher wages and rat-race of engineering, computer sciences, business and/or communications. Science, particularly Earth science, goes by the wayside and is usually forgotten. A quick crash-course…

Biological (biodiversity)
The important interconnectedness of all Earth’s species and ecosystems can never be overstated. Each species on our planet, including humans, directly or indirectly rely on the services of another chain of species for survival. The nitrogen cycle is one of three vital biochemical cycles all living organisms depend upon. Nitrogen atoms are found in all proteins and DNA, the foundation of all life. Animals that depend on soil, bacteria, and plants also feed humans. A healthy human diet includes a variety of food groups that come from a balanced diverse ecosystem that protects fresh water sources, clean breathable air, nutrient recycling, pollution breakdown, medicinal resources, and recovery from unpredictable catastrophic events. Hence, each organism, microscopic or gargantuan, is a type of insurance policy for others. And finally the simple awe and wonder of Nature’s resilience, mysteries, and beauty gives us endless psychological benefits like reduced anxiety and increased levels of serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine to name just three.

Genetic diversity
genotype-phenotype_diagramA genetic blueprint is inside every living organism not just for birth, but equally for restoration. An organism’s physical form and function is partly determined by its genotypes, but also phenotypically by its particular environment. Genetic diversity helps organisms cope with historic ranges of environmental variabilities for example in weather, population sizes of competitors, resource availability, or disturbance events. A group of organisms that live within a very normative, stable physical and biological environment, consequently a relatively narrow range of phenotypes will typically adapt optimally to those narrow conditions. By contrast, if the environment is more challenging, unpredictable, and includes a wide-range of disease, parasites, and competitors/predators, then differences between individuals raise or reduce probabilities of survival and restoration. Since differences among organisms or individuals are determined partly by genotypes, population genetic theory predicts that in variable environments of polymorphic species with broader heterozygosity will better cope and persist compared to monomorphic species with narrow homozygosity. Basically, and genetically speaking, diversity within populations reduces potentially detrimental effects of uniformity.

Workplace diversity
Within a business organization diversity encompasses age, background (familial), cognitive styles, education, ethnic groups, gender, organizational functions and specialties, personality, race, tenure and more. How coworkers perceive themself and others factors into workplace dynamics. When human resource departments assess and implement their diversity management plans, multiple advantages are realized such as increased adaptability, broader service ranges (e.g. languages), various viewpoints for broader ideas and ingenuity, and higher proportional productivity, profit, and return on investments. As the global economy expands, in order to remain competitive attracting and retaining a wider-range of multicultural staff ensures future interviewing and hiring standards remain more up-to-date possibly avoiding or saving on litigation expenses.

Cultural diversity
There are a number of advantages created by cultural or social diversity in populations. People who have become bilingual or multilingual activate parts of their brain neurology that previously were dormant using strictly their native language (see this 2014 article in The Guardian). This rewiring or expanded wiring increases brain size and intellect. Variety enriches innovation leading to economic growth, improves access to jobs and increases job opportunities. This produces a vibrant community and lowers socioeconomic stagnation and depressions. For the youth of the population early exposure to ethnic and economic diversity prepares them for a multicultural student campus and world. Educational studies on cultural diversity in schools consistently demonstrate that this type exposure contributes significantly to academic development and higher cultural awareness and understanding, specifically harmful effects of prejudices and racism.


Psychological-Intellectual diversity
Many psychologists find stable happiness and well-being are contributed to diversity and social inclusiveness. By adjusting our ways of communication with those from various ethnic backgrounds, ages, gender, personalities, etc, we improve our psychological and intellectual capacities as well as aid in others doing the same with us. In a 2016 scientific study called Do Something Different: Diversity and Inclusion, results showed three significant outcomes:

  • Someone with high inclusiveness was about four times more likely to have high wellbeing, compared to someone with low inclusiveness.
  • Someone with medium inclusiveness was twice as likely to have high wellbeing, compared to someone with low inclusiveness.
  • Someone with high inclusiveness was very unlikely (only 3% chance) to have low wellbeing.

The study also examined the effects of increased inclusiveness on coping skills, decision-making, dialogue with others, happiness, physical health, feeling valued, purpose in life, and close or intimate relationships. Five of these eight areas were exceptionally higher and the other three slightly higher. Conclusion? The more inclusive and diverse a person the better their well-being. According to this 2014 and 2017 Scientific American article, there are also three major intellectual benefits with embraced diversity:

  • Decades of research by organizational scientists, psychologists, sociologists, economists and demographers show that socially diverse groups (that is, those with a diversity of race, ethnicity, gender and sexual orientation) are more innovative than homogeneous groups.
  • It seems obvious that a group of people with diverse individual expertise would be better than a homogeneous group at solving complex, nonroutine problems. It is less obvious that social diversity should work in the same way—yet the science shows that it does.
  • This is not only because people with different backgrounds bring new information. Simply interacting with individuals who are different forces group members to prepare better, to anticipate alternative viewpoints and to expect that reaching consensus will take effort.

Conclusion? Being around people who are different from us in multiple ways makes us more creative, more diligent, acutely smarter, and harder-working.

These five forms of diversity, inclusion, kinetic learning, better well-being, and progressive, positive life insurance-probabilities briefly demonstrate the immense value of myriad polygenous formulas or equations offer individuals and society. Diversification is an immeasurable treasure trove of higher living.

A Life and World Without Choices and Diversity

You go to your local cell phone dealer-store to purchase a phone. When you enter the 5,000 sq. ft. store you see the display-stand in the center and it holds only two phones and two phones only. “Why are there only two old phones?” you ask. The salesperson puzzled by your question answers, “Because that’s what you and our society has always accepted.

You enter your local grocery store with your long list of items for your kitchen. Upon entering you see row after row after row of one brand of bread, and on the other side only one brand of whole milk. That’s it. The previous four grocers you went to had the exact same thing. You find a grocery-clerk and ask, “Why are there only two items in all your grocery stores everywhere?” The clerk puzzled by your question answers, “Because that’s what you and our society has always wanted.

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After visiting five previous car dealerships, you walk onto another dealership to purchase an automobile. When you get onto the lot you see row after row of either Model-A Fords (one color) to the left and VW Bugs (one color) to the right. The salesperson approaches and you ask, “Why are there only two types of cars on your lot and everyone else’s?” Surprised by your question the reply is “Because that’s what you and our society has always wanted.

Ready to move into a newer different home, you arrive at another newly developed subdivision of homes for sell. The previous six neighborhoods were all the same. Driving through these streets you see too there are only two choices of dwellings, all with the same size lawns. Baffled you ask the head realtor, “Why are there only two types of homes in your subdivision and at everyone else’s?” She looks at you strangely and answers, “Because that’s what you and our society has always wanted.

Flipping on your new high-def television, you browse through the guide and astonishingly there are only two channels to select and absolutely no movie or sports channels. You call the TV provider and ask, “Why are there only two channels to watch, a 24-hour shopping channel and constant repeats of CBN?” The customer service rep chuckles then answers, “Because that’s what you and our society has always wanted.

Are you getting the idea? How many other analogies and mental paradigms can you imagine with strict oppressive conformity, no ingenuity, no higher untapped learning, and certainly no higher levels of well-being, experience and understanding? Imagine that for your entire life.

There is another reality as well. Amusingly, how many people — at least privately or secretly — actually do exactly what they want/desire and fly in the face (or behind the back) of social norms, the mainstream, and their partner/spouse? If so, why the public charade?

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Why then do we restrict ourselves, imprison ourselves(?) in human interactions and relationships composed of possibly better or expansive emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical-sexual understanding, growth, and maturity in ourselves and others, from opportunity after opportunity ad infinitum, to one or only a small handful of people all, or the vast majority of our lives… when we essentially don’t do it or want to in every other aspect of our lives? According to this world’s Nature (covered above) and human nature, what again are the (high) risks with narrow, monistic monomorphic thinking and living? Hmmm. A or B. Or just A. Never A, B, C, D, E, F, or G and so on. Never?

Are you maybe “Not Who You Thought” you were or want to be? Not living more alive? How do you know with certainty firsthand? How much have you done, or not done for the sake of a social norm? Should not this life be lived to the fullest with others who want or live the same and more?

Fear stifles. Courage fulfills.” Be true to yourself and others and be open and inclusive.

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Further resources:  On Non-Monogamy

Related posts:

Sexual & Gender Ambiguity: My Once Gross Ignorance
Starvation or Abundance?
Human & Atomic Interactions
Untapped Worlds — Maior Liberatio
Untapped Worlds — Retooling
Doctor, What Do I Have?
Soul MateS
Dare to Love…More
The “One” Myth

Live Well — Love Much — Laugh Often — Learn Always

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16 thoughts on “Not Who You Thought?

  1. A superbly crafted article, Professor, for which many thanks. As an inveterate advocate of the devil, but also because I believe what follows to be true, then personally I am deeply cynical about so-called ‘consumer choice’ in the operation of (again, so-called) ‘free markets’, and how those phrases have been used to propagate the neoliberalist paradigm of the past 35 years or so. Let me speak about Britain, and solely in respect to the market economy, rather than the other spheres you so eloquently discuss:

    Here, we were told by politicians [See: Thatcherism/Reaganomics] that the supply of public goods and services by the state, when there was only a single source for each (of telephony, gas, electricity, trains, buses, water, waste collection, etc.), all then issued by nationalised (i.e. publicly owned) industries, would result in a far better deal for consumers if the state suppliers were dismantled (or sold off) and private corporations stood in their stead. This would be the result of increased competition thereafter — a seemingly logical argument.

    This has proven to be a fallacy, resulting only in a constantly manipulated and covertly constructed price confusion by the marketing departments of the private suppliers, often as a camouflage for pricing cartels between those same privately owned corporations.

    The two most rapidly expanding supermarkets (food suppliers) in the U.K. are Aldi and Lidl, whose model is based on low pricing resulting from the withdrawal of choice — just one (own brand) type of baked bean, mayonnaise, etc. Consumers are loving it; they don’t want the sixteen varieties of ketchup available in the other suppliers — just one, maybe two (e.g. low salt), which are good quality and value.

    Overwhelmingly, the public want to return to a nationalised railway system, as they are sick of exploitative confusion pricing and the inability to know what the cheapest way is to get from A to B. Most consumers, when surveyed, complain about telephony, gas, electric and water providers, again as a result of the so-called ‘consumer choice’ that is offered. Our most cherished institution is the National Health Service, which, despite its failings, almost none of the public wish to see supplanted by private medical care. Even our current right-wing government recognises this (whilst covertly privatising portions of the service piecemeal.)

    So, I think we have to treat the emotional and psychological aspects of life somewhat differently to the material and services side. Diversity is good in one (the former) and not necessarily in the other. Nowadays, ‘diversity’ is a buzzword that we increasingly feel obliged to accept as a ubiquitously good and beneficial quality. I sense its appropriation by market economists has been called-out for what it is, by many, and that we are coming to the end of that paradigm. Diversity clearly does have its limits on where it works and where it doesn’t. It isn’t inherently a good thing, but rather depends where and how it’s applied.

    Human wellbeing isn’t predicated on the availability of choice, on the degree to which options can be exercised. There, we get into the two types of freedom: ‘freedom from’, and ‘freedom to’. Generally, the former conduces to our weal, the latter not necessarily so. My ‘freedom to’ do whatsoever I wish may well suit my desires, but does it conduce to the weal of others? If all beings had the ‘freedom to’ do whatsoever they desired, would the result not be chaos and destruction? Conversely, if all beings had ‘freedom from’ whatever it is that they sought to avoid, would that not result in their weal, and consequently that of all beings?

    Stay dry and safe, Professor!

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    • Ah Hariod…

      I absolutely enjoy your devil’s advocate side! You’ve brought up some GREAT points to consider! I very much welcome them — in the sphere of economics and model-analysis, of course — for the sake of more diversity and… shall we say, subdiversity? 😉

      Your points are very well made about corporate marketing, camoflage for pricing cartels, and especially with Aldi-Lidl “low pricing resulting from the withdrawal of choice“! That’s a fantastic point and is exactly what is transpiring here with Walmart-SAMS, HEB, Kroger Companies, etc. I’ve noticed inside them shopping that most all packaged items, with the exception of fresh produce which is typically on the OUTER EDGES of the stores, that my choices are either volume/number, higher volume or number, or MEGA-volume/numbers… no longer the modest, humble proportions that a single man or even small family needs. After say 4-6 days those EXCESSIVE counts/volume go bad, go to waste, and their non-degradeable plastic containers/packaging SATURATE our land-fills, water-systems, and oceans. 😦 I have grown increasingly fond of local farmer’s markets, supporting them instead. Well, except for my Mendoza Valley, Argentina supplies of Malbec. HAH!!!

      Britain’s National Health Service is an intriguing topic to me Hariod. I wish I understood it better. I know this, as I’m sure you do as well, that our U.S. healthcare system has a plethora of flaws and fallacies with NO central blame to give, but not the worst of which is millions & billions of dollars of revenues between medical societies, providers, and pharmaceutical corporations. Carefully disguised corruption is most assuredly within those U.S. entities; have been for decades. Personally, I would like for American political parties to carefully examine the Nordic Model of socioeconomics, implementing their successes while tweaking the shortcomings. Ugh, but how likely is that anytime soon with worsening bipartisan, bipolar entrenched ideologies here, no thanks to our current POTUS? 😦

      I’m not so sure I agree with you though about not joining or not intertwining “emotional and psychological aspects of life.” I feel and see that we Americans are already doing it and have been for quite sometime. Many people do it secretly or privately (high discretions due to public image), and some are NOT AFRAID to be very human and brilliantly imperfect, learning over and over to fail better! To the latter though, not enough… yet. 😀

      Must stop there because I have several things to attend to with our local Red Cross chapter. With Harvey stubbornly sitting near Victoria, TX… meteorologists and paleotempestologists are telling us that 50-inches more by this Friday is to be expected all across coastal Texas and inland. Busy, busy, busy here. Thank you for your very kind sentiments Hariod. ❤

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      • Thank you, Professor.

        You said: “I’m not so sure I agree with you though about not joining or not intertwining ’emotional and psychological aspects of life’.” Just to clarify, that is not what I said. My words were: “So, I think we have to treat the emotional and psychological aspects of life somewhat differently to the material and services side.” Perhaps the syntax could be improved, I concede.

        So, of course the emotional and psychological aspects of life are irrevocably interrelated, not to say, one and the same: in the sense that they comprise the inner world. I made a distinction between them (as the inner world) and the external world of the materials and services we consume and utilise as citizens, and which argument itself was at odds with the opening of your piece — the Devil’s Advocate stance I alluded to.

        Nonetheless, I feel churlish pointing up such a minor misunderstanding given the circumstances you are currently enduring weather-wise. I am following the news here at regular intervals, and know you have at least three more very difficult days ahead. For thousands, of course, it will be many months before their lives can return to normal — rather in the way that it will be for the Gunners after what happened at Anfield yesterday. 😉

        H ❤

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        • Oh! I’m sorry Hariod! You are right. In my haste to get out the door early this A.M. I did misread that. :/ Don’t feel churlish. That’s was a necessary clarification.

          Ugh, my lowly Wenger and Gunners aren’t looking good or inspired are they? Liverpool totally deserved that well-played win. And my goodness, Coutinho is back and coupled with Sadio Mané or Firmino AND so well coached by Klopp… lookout! They will be outstanding if they can get their defense and defensive set-plays sorted out!

          Thank you again H for the excellent feedback! ❤

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  2. Everywhere I have gone in the world the people I meet have a great deal in common. They are kind, polite, and generous. Of course, noting is at stake in just meeting a stranger (even a stranger as strange as me). But we seem to be able to select out the worst among us to be our political leaders. Even with a mix of good and bad political leaders, we tend to ignore the good ones and ravish our attention on the bad ones (possibly because of all of the mischief they can get us into).

    It is no surprise that inclusiveness creates value to the participants. It has always been that way regarding ideas, too. Well said, well written, great post!

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  3. Great read professor. I agree with Hariod’s take on many things regarding consumer choices. Very often we only have the illusion of choice. Or sometimes, well you only make x amount of dollars so you will only be able to afford many kinds of what amounts to the same shitty blender.

    By the way your Earth Science review did not say anything about geology, meteorology, or oceanography, which is typically what is considered Earth Science…but I’ll let it slide in the spirit of the post. 🙂

    I think choice and diversity are two different things. For instance whether I get blender A or blender B is choice, but to me it’s not really diversity. There might be differences in quality, or how powerful the motor is, but ultimately they are designed to perform the same function, perhaps better or worse, but still the same. For me diversity is a food processor, a blender, a stand mixer. These 3 items are diverse, they all can mix things, but are best used for mixing different things, one can also be used for chopping, where perhaps another one can’t. In general the diverse types of kitchen appliances you have allow you to prepare food in numerous ways. This to me is the type of diversity that I think is socially relevant when let’s say we talk about a diverse student body, or a diverse management team. We are looking for diverse perspectives at achieving a particular goal. Blender A and Blender B is more like white middle-aged male named Steve who went to Denver University, and white slightly older middle-aged male who went to Yale. Not saying they aren’t different, but it’s not overly diverse, just different and thus choice.

    I agree with your point at the end, but I think maybe you got there in not the best way. For me I like choice when it comes to ice cream. I do not care very much for choice when it comes to blenders. Now that’s not to say there aren’t certain blenders that aren’t prettier or more stylish…that fit in with our overall design of our kitchen…but this isn’t really about the blender itself anymore which is a functional item but about an aesthetic quality we like to surround ourselves with. It’s visual it pleases our senses. Ice cream is taste, we like to experience different tastes. There is no best ice cream flavor (well it’s peach and everybody else is wrong). Now in our beautiful kitchen we might be happy that there is choice so we can get that matching blender, but we might not be all that happy if it breaks down easily, doesn’t make a good smoothie, that kind of thing. Ultimately it’s the function that is most important. And I think most of us, unless we are extremely wealthy would rather have something that reliable works over something that is super beautiful. Why? Because we can decorate and other ways. In the end I don’t even care whether there are choices in washing machines. I’d rather have something that works well and lasts a long time. I feel the same way about cars, and I know that not everybody does…but I think we could safely say that a car with all the coolest gadgets and that looks sleek, isn’t all that useful if it breaks down after a week. Cars perform a specific function, and I can guarantee you that a majority of people (because they don’t have lots of money) would rather have a car that wasn’t breaking down all the time rather than something that was pretty. And I think even in the space of sensory pleasures, as Hariod says, we might be happy with just one type of orange that’s good quality produce over 10 kinds of oranges that aren’t ripe or badly bruised when you by them. But in a perfect world where quality was assured I think that we are still going to lean towards favoring function for certain things, and then favoring sensory reactions to others.

    So in the end what you say about relationships and human interaction, I completely agree. I think this IS like ice cream. We should be free to enjoy more flavors than we do, and that we generally limit the number of flavors we can enjoy. But there is an evolution to this. For a long time I think there was at least some good reason to limit those flavors, society favors a more broad relationship experience than it has. At least in civilized history. I think it’s also important to note that while the experience of different relationship models may bring a lot of joy. Imagine if you had 5 sexual partners that you were emotionally attached to, and then had 3 of them break up with you. It turns out that having 2 partners left might not feel like much of a consolation when emotional attachments have been cutoff to 3 other people who were important to you. My point is that while there is also the good side there is also the bad side. And it exists in monogamous relationships too. Some people are afraid of love because breakups hurt. Some people say screw that, I want to be happy. So maybe there is some sense to the rules to minimized the amount of pain we experience, even if we minimize the amount of joy we experience. We can die from grief, but we can’t die from happiness. (well unless drugs are involved!). That being said I don’t think we should be socializing relationship rules like there is some sort of a handbook out there that says how it should all go. Humans are complex and dynamic creatures and so the types of relationship models that are acceptable should reflect that.

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    • Hahaha… you are absolutely correct Swarn about my Earth Science omissions! Those should be included as well. Thank you for mentioning that. This go round I thought I’d try really REALLY HARD this time not to publish/post another 3,000 – 5,000 word post, or another 4-5 part series like I’ve been doing lately. I think I’ve lost several Followers by writing such lengthy, long-winded blog-posts. LOL 😛

      I do see your point about choice vs. diversity, blender A vs. blender B, middle-aged Steve (Denver U) vs. slightly more middle-aged Joe (Yale) who are both caucasin. Great distinctions Swarn. Yes indeed, function is a critical component. Wonderful point again! I do think Quality vs. Quantity works in different ways depending on the entities/factors being examined. How does one reasonably know they have “quality” if they haven’t operated with a large quantity, say only 2-3 entities versus 100? And what if the pool of entities/components are very complex in nature, none of them identical? Thus, quality is not always assured. 😉

      I’m thinking now in trying to emphasize our HEALTHY appetites for consumer/material choices that are socially widespread/common, in my opinion and experience, i.e. we expect the variety of choices always (which may have gotten lost in the mix)… so why do we NOT expect the same in our human interactions? Your theoretical questions and possibilities — I’m assuming here (apology) because I don’t actually know; we’ve never discussed details at any length; I know you are VERY open-minded 🙂 — are exactly the thoughts/questions of what I intended readers to consider. Thank you Swarn.

      For myself, I am quite experienced, by comparisons here in Texas, in the Open-lifestyle, many years actually, and honestly have had nothing but INCREDIBLE experiences with couples, singles, and even one time a phenomenal private event that included 3 couples, me and my partner, and 2 singles — lasted practically the entire weekend! My point is that much of my knowledge and experience about the lifestyle(s) is not theoretical, but firsthand experience, albeit consisting ONLY of 13-years total. I have realized that many of these people have EXCEPTIONAL people-skills, compersion levels, and high self-esteem. And you are correct, all people are different. But I often do ask myself, and others when appropriate, “How do you know what you can manage and not manage if you never actually try, try, and try several times in a variety of ways?” If thousands upon thousands are making it work and are very, very happy, then where might the actual pain, hurt, or failures actually reside? And is a little pain, hurt, challenges such a bad thing? Not saying repeatedly day after day, but once or twice in 6-months, a year, three years? We learn (or should) from both our successes and our failures. I had to learn that SO MANY TIMES in my pro and semi-pro soccer career! Bwahahahaha! 😛

      Your last several sentences Swarn are well considered and wise. Lots of truth in them. Thank you very much for this excellent feedback and perspective Sir! ❤

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      • How does one reasonably know they have “quality” if they haven’t operated with a large quantity, say only 2-3 entities versus 100?

        This is an interesting question. Of course we could fall into the trap of always thinking there is something better. For household appliances, again I think we can agree that as long as it performs it’s function we probably don’t need to look too much harder. Now when it comes to sensory pleasures if we now talk about ice cream, we might say, alright my favorite flavor is chocolate ice cream. And maybe you even have a particular brand that makes you happy and you like the best. After trying several others. Now you might be closing yourself off to many other makers of fine chocolate ice cream. You may be even closing yourself off to other flavors that you like. But first, you might be convinced that the brand and flavor you like the best, is the best. It’s a belief, and as long as you are happy, who cares? Maybe someone is afraid of having multiple bad ice cream experiences when they knew there was a flavor and brand that they really liked. It’s a fair perspective, and given our cognitive biases to favor what we already believe to be true, from a probabilistic standpoint the person might enjoy their future ice cream experiences less because of what they already believe. The key might be to develop the attitude at a young age to be open always to new ice cream experiences. But I honestly don’t know that would be a more moral approach, just a different approach. And going back to your original point I don’t know that it takes a 100 experiences to settle on something that you truly enjoy through you senses, where functionality no longer matters. I don’t need to see 100 paintings before I decide that there is a painting I enjoy looking at. There may be other paintings I like better, but as I know both you and I value the importance of enjoying the moment, maybe just having gratitude for seeing a beautiful painting is all that matters and we shouldn’t concerned with all the other more beautiful paintings that might be out there. This then builds expectations, and expectations can lead to stress, worry, and disappointment. Whereas if we have a painting we like looking at, and like looking at it everyday, what’s the worry? Maybe when it comes to happiness choice doesn’t matter, just being in the moment does. Now if something no longer brings you happiness, maybe the best advice is to be true to yourself and move on.

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        • Apologies Swarn for my delay in respondiing. Yesterday was a crazy busy day at the Red Cross shelter. I was utterly exhausted when I got home and your comment deserved a well considered response, as always. 😉

          It is a wonderful 2nd comment Swarn! Thank you. As I read this, I couldn’t really argue against your ideas, suggestions, and analysis because I do recognize that people’s personalities are relative to their DNA, neurological, hormonal, and cognitive makeup or design. As I wrote about in my May 2013 blog-post, “DRD4-7R“, we humans do indeed possess GENERAL sensory stimulations that are favored. I am absolutely the “Orchid” type personality — from that blog-post and the corresponding neurological-hormonal research — with only traces of the “Dandelion” traits. I am indeed a Marco Polo -esque personality. That said, I/we must be careful NOT to habitually generalize or stereotype anyone because — and I do know you know this as well 🙂 — not one single human being on this planet is perfectly identical in their atomic or cytological makeup. Duh, right? LOL Plus, we humans and everything else living on this planet, whether measured over one day or 100 to 1,000 years, is in constant change… influenced by our environment AND those around us, especially immediate and extended family as well as our close intimate friends, partners, colleagues, etc. And I think this is also my poorly made point(s) in this particular post: existentially, EVERYTHING and EVERYONE is in constant change. Your very last sentence above…

          …if something no longer brings you happiness, maybe the best advice is to be true to yourself and move on.

          An expanded point to this perpetual change is also that (hopefully) we humans and our creations (products & byproducts?) as well as maintenance of or care/nurturing for entities of value and high-value are continually evolving, progressing, improving… as much as can be realistically expected. Expectations should not be overly high and here is where that gratitude (reiterating your fine point) for the moment/present absolutely applies! Appreciating (loving? adoring?) another entity should NEVER imply that the original(s) are of ANY LESS VALUE! Different, yes, but not necessarily inferior (or at all) because EVERYTHING and EVERYONE either changes/evolves, or absolutely has the freedom and opportunities to change/evolve for increased improvement — and sure, this can be strictly within an exclusive monogamous agreement (SHOULD BE at least!) — so “inferior” or “lacking” or “failure/failing” should NEVER EVER be considered as final or irreparable. I hope I’m making sense. I’m a bit rushed due to my schedule. LOL 😛

          I know in a general sense Swarn we agree on the whole, it’s just the little tiny details we are/I am trying to sort out properly. ❤ Grrrrrr, and I must run. Another busy day today. Please feel free to continue this should your schedule allow.

          Thanks so much Swarn for your great feedback!


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