My Early Alzheimer’s Mom

Fast Update:

My Mom is probably in her last few days or weeks—1-3 weeks?—to live so I have been extremely busy with all sorts of legal preparations, Last Will & Testament, medical power of attorney “Do Not Resuscitate” preparations, and then as you might imagine… a ton more tasks, preparations to move again soon, etc., etc., et al. It might not settle back to normal for some time now. 🤷‍♂️

Mom/Esther circa 2007?
Mom & I – Kerrville Ren Festival – Jan 2023

Until the next update… whenever that might be.

23 thoughts on “My Early Alzheimer’s Mom

  1. My mater passed away 2 years ago at 93 after a slow physical deterioration and not of her mental facilities, but of chronic pulmonary fibrosis, heart disease and old age.

    It’s not that it was unexpected, but I wasn’t ready for it. She was old skool evangelical, and confident of her afterlife so I kinda feel she’s in a better place than the constant exhaustion and pain. I hope you find peace and understanding — I’m still workin’ on that.

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  2. I’m so sorry to hear that, Professor. I’ve stayed following your blog all this time, though I no longer have a WordPress account myself. My thoughts are with you and your family! Also, congrats on your recent nuptials!

    Fondly,

    Jessica Cyphers

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  3. I just saw this! It would seem things turned around rather quickly as last I remember, you were mostly dealing with the Alzheimer’s. So sorry to hear that it now includes declining health. Stay strong … and know you are in our thoughts.

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  4. Glad you have time to prepare. My paertner’s father died unexpected on July 3rd this year. Life has been hell for her since. Because her mother is first inheritor everything went to her; the problem being, she is in a home for dementia patients Gail has power-of-attorney, but it yas to go through some kind of court before the banks will believe her. They seem to think we are trying to steal her money. They won’t even let us look in the Safety Deposit Box where most of the important papers exist. It is a big legal hornet’s nest!
    Not to make light of your situation, but at least it sounds like you have some kind of control over what comes next. We were not prepared for all the stress and legal shenanigans. Life is hell at a time when it needs to be step-by-step in order.

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  5. So sorry I haven’t been keeping up and very sorry to hear that your mom is in her last days/weeks. I know this has to be hard, Prof, and I have no words of wisdom or comfort. But know that I am thinking about you and your mom, wishing her a pain-free exit when her time comes, and sending you a virtual hug to help give you strength … and peace.

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  6. For all of you following my family situation…

    Friday, Oct. 17, 2025, a caseworker officer of Adult Protective Services arrived for a 2-hour interview of my wife, myself, and a check on my Mom… because someone (most likely my sister) called APS with complaints for Mom’s safety and well-being. The officer had to interview me and Sandy about these complaints—this is the 2nd time APS has been called on me, the 1st time was by my psychotic Schizoidaffective Bipolar sister.

    Sandy and I had to answer questions by this APS officer regarding the care and well-being of my mother. It infuriated both of us, but the interview as usual, went just fine. The APS officer laughed as she departed saying, “You have nothing to worry about, sorry that I had to waste your time, your wife’s time, and waste tax-payer dollars to come out.” But unfortunately they must investigate all calls.

    Now I have been forced to do this on my sister…

    https://professortaboo.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/carolyns-restraining-order-application.png

    Just more unnecessary bullshit from a deranged, unstable, psychotic sister I must deal with on top of caring for my Mom’s death and those arrangements.

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    • Strangely enough, I got the call. My mothers peg (feeding tube thing,) broke off. Part of it still in her. They sent her to H to get it out. They determined she is too old and frail to be a candidate for surgery. Their recommendation, Hospice. They started comfort measures last Mon. At least I don’t have deranged family to deal with. Everyone that matters understands the situation 100%. So now, I’m waiting for that call.

      You know I can fix just about anything, and damn near any situation, some things are just beyond our control. We’re along for the ride. Unenviable as it is…

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