Baby, I So Got This!

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I fear no Kryptonite!

I fear no Kryptonite!

“Girlfriend’s Liability Release Clause:  Terms of male service are subject to change or fail miserably when the male brain-fart is prevalent and unavoidable.

There is a widely used misconception by “High-Testosterone” heterosexual Alpha males that they will perform euphoric miracles with their spouse/significant-other, if she allowed another woman to join them in the bed.  These men (myself included) will greatly OVER-SHOOT expectations if she allows more than another woman but also — in his wild dream-state — 2 or 3 more hot women to join… knowing this one-in-a-million opportunity may never present itself again!  I have fallen into this self-designed trap before.

After my partner gave me two explicit directions of how to please her, as well as the other women so that everybody has a memorable time, I assured her “Baby, I so got this.

Little did I know that what I had been told many times throughout my High-T life — that men’s blood flows in only one direction — was so embarrassingly true.  As the heat of the moment increased, my brain cells were drained of blood by one single selfish organ, and I couldn’t remember, much less focus on, what I was supposed to do when everyone’s clothes came off.  After some time the women were whispering to each other a little frustrated “Can we get rid of the guy?

homer-dohLiability Release Clause kicks in….brain-farting by said male is in early onset!

The moral of this High-T brain-dead moment?

Men, our own fantasies are rarely based in reality:  we are not the best multi-taskers contrary to our sometimes rather large egos, even when we are given a simple directional map drawn in crayons by our hopeful, patient, loving spouses/SO’s.  Delusions of grandeur get the best of us.

The women are the Queens of multi-tasking, hands down.

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After the

Andain is a music duo out of San Francisco, CA with an electronic-acoustical blend of dark emotional sounds and lyrics.  This is exactly why I dig their music.  This particular song “After:” speaks to the circumstance of loss, separation, or abandonment in life — a very real part of families and/or relationships…and really about life itself.  Life is never just about roses, riches, and R&R.  Many things and many relationships that are raw, have their painful ups and downs.  Try to connect with the singer Mavie Marcos and what she is expressing…

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Feeling the flame burn
Feeling my veins hurt
After the wave forms
After the world storms

You spoke in side words
Failing the offer
Sending me out there
Feeling the cold air

You’re gone
You’re gone

Feeling the right words
Feeling the unheard
After the wave forms
After the world storms

You broke in my fears
Leaving me inside
Sending me out there
Feeling the cold air

You’re gone, I open
I will, I will see
Up and up and on and on and
Down and over me

And night after night of fooling myself
I would like to rewind and find something I’d never felt
And night after night I would tire of fooling myself
I could find what it’s like to lose something after it fell

As you’re gone I open
I will, I will see
Up and up and on and on and
Down and over me

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Loud Vulnerability

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I usually post these on my Music page, but this time I am breaking from convention, away from my usual monthly WordPress process.  This go round, I am sharing what it is like to be a courageous communicator with someone you love dearly.  Over the last 10-15 years of my life I have been approached by many friends and acquaintances about HOW to love more, to love deeper, and to love more freely.  In all the instances, with their successes and struggles, their fears and joys, I seem to offer the same advice:  Whatever you feel, whatever you think, whatever you do…do it as if you were in front of your lover all the time.  In other words, if you say, or do something that you know your lover/spouse wouldn’t encourage, then there is a problem.  And hence, the two of you (or more than two) must address this “fear” or “silence” as quickly as possible because you have stumbled upon a ticking time-bomb.

I also share this music because it takes me home.  One can often find me on weekends or holidays dancing at these kinds of places.  When I am lost in this type of place and this type of music….I am gone.  Nothing short of a nuclear blast will disconnect me.

This is Armin van Buuren‘s I’ll Listen featuring Ana Criedo.  Watch the video, listen to the music, and follow the lyrics below.  It is all well worth it.

I won’t ask you why
No I won’t play devil’s advocate
Don’t wanna try and fix it
And make it about me
When you’re lost and all alone in your pain
And nothing seems to make sense; all in vain
You find in here a safe space to cry
And I’ll just meet you there
The other ??world we’ll hide??

And you can share your heart
Show yourself
I’ll listen
And you can say it all
Reveal yourself
I’ll listen

I’ll listen, I will listen
I’ll listen, I’ll listen

And you can share your heart
Show yourself
When you need it
Just believe it
I’ll listen
And you can say it all
Reveal yourself
When you feel it
Just believe it
I’ll listen

I’ll listen, I will listen
I’ll listen, I’ll listen

And you can share your heart
Show yourself
I’ll listen
And you can say it all
Reveal yourself
I’ll listen

“The One” Myth

As part of the Alternative Lifestyles blog-posts migration over to the new blog The Professor’s Lifestyles Memoirs, this post has been moved there. To read this post please click the link to the blog.

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Trials of Open/Poly Lifers

As part of the Alternative Lifestyles blog-posts migration over to the new blog The Professor’s Lifestyles Memoirs, this post has been moved there. To read this post please click the link to the blog.

Your patience is appreciated. Thank you!